I’ll preface this by saying that I realize in some cultures it is perfectly normal to take kids into a tavern. Heck, in THIS culture it is, as long they are supervised and not absorbing a culture of drinking. If you go to a restaurant with a tavern, absolutely grab a table in the tavern for your family so the parents can watch a little bit of the ball game while the family grabs lunch – no problem.

This post is inspired by those parents or guardians who think it is cute to have their kid sit at a bar stool in a bar as if they were one of the drinkers. This drives me batty on a number of levels:

1) Is that really the message you want your kid to learn, that bellying up to the bar at noon (or whenever) is “cool” or something to aspire to?

2) Taking up a bar stool at night (no bar ever has enough spots at the bar for those of age that are there to hang out. Your kid taking up one of the spots is not appreciated. Ever.

3) Having to censor conversations because of YOUR lax parenting style. If you are going to let your kid belly up to the bar, that is your parenting choice, and not the patrons. Don’t tell them to “stop cussing” or “don’t tell that story in front of my kid” – you invaded their adult space, not the other way around. And I mean, really – are you really one to dictate behavior at this point, after plopping your offspring on a bar stool to watch mommy or daddy get soused?

4) The parents who allow their kid to not only sit there but to spread out and do home work while they drink it up with their friends and ignore the kid, or even worse try to get the patrons to help with said home work so they don’t have to? You’re a special kind of bad parent.

5) Putting the screaming baby on the bar space in front of a bar stool or on a bar stool so you can “watch” it while you drink. Do I really have to address this one out loud?

6) After you get your odious offspring their bar stool, you start calling them stupid for various imagined instances of “talking back” while you drink. Unacceptable. How do you expect them to behave with that kind of example?

Am I only seeing this because of the very small town I live in? no. I see this in a lot of places, though it is far less often in a city, I’ll give you that. Have I missed any examples? What do y’all do in this situation? Say something? Ignore it? A third option I’ve yet to come up with?

Over the last few months I have had many, many requests for sharing my knowledge on a variety of subjects. The most often requested topic is kid safety online. Most parents can figure out how to use a computer, even if they aren’t a “techie”, but many don’t know how to find and use the safety features of most web sites, or they rely on things like Net Nanny that cost money and end up blocking the parents as well as the kids, in some cases.

I decided to answer the call and create a class. Well, I started advertising the class everywhere I could, on and offline, and am surprised that the people who asked for it haven’t signed up yet – procrastinators! Regardless, I thought I’d put the information up here on this blog. If you know someone in NH (or parts of MA) who might benefit from this class, it is coming up soon. Help me spread the word?

Official Description and Link To Sign Up:

Update: CLASS POSTPONED

This lunch and learn session is for parents or guardians who want to know how to keep their kids safe on the internet. How much should you watch? How do you recognize signs of trouble? What is the etiquette for being in your child’s “Circle of Friends” without intruding or damaging your relationship? What does an online predator look like? We’ll cover all of this and more over lunch at the beautiful Rick’s Pond View by the water on Route 125 in NH.

Prerequisites: You must have a working knowledge of a computer. Being able to sign up for an online registration like this one without assistance from the kids you want to protect is a pretty good indicator of what you will need to be able to do to keep them safe.

Bring: Just yourself, your appetite and something to take notes with. You can bring your laptop, but a pen and paper will also be enough. Rick’s does have WiFi internet if you want to put some of our techniques in practice after class.

What to expect: We’ll be doing a lunch and learn. This means I’ll be teaching you for the first 30 – 40 minutes of the allotted time. After that we will eat (there will be several tasty choices from a limited menu, included in the price). While we eat, you can follow up with me “one on one” about any question regarding what you learned about keeping your child safe online that you may have after the session.

Who is teaching the lunch and learn?

Leslie Poston is passionate about helping people and businesses find their way to success via technology. As a writer, she has over 200 ebooks and books in her repertoire and several more in development. As a speaker and leading authority in social networking, technology, new media, brand and business development, she is the founder of Uptown Uncorked social media and business development consultancy. Leslie helps businesses, brands and personalities discover and build unique and personal presences and networks on the internet and beyond, a well as create an offline foundation to support them. Leslie can be found on the internet daily, meeting new people and making connections with the world. Her most recent author credits include co-authorship of the upcoming release Twitter for Dummies (Available Summer 2009 from Amazon).

To sign up and pre-pay, go to this EventBrite link. POSTPONED

I don’t want kids. I don’t want them ever, ever. There is no biological clock ticking away inside of me, no desire to coo over or play with the children of others, no desire to interact with kids at all. I have tried to answer the question a million times, a question that should never be asked in the first place since it is none of the asker’s business, but I have failed. Thank goodness ACW is around, because he managed to make all of my reasons and a few I hadn’t thought of yet into one perfect post. So go forth and read it if you want to know why some of us choose to be child free. He said it better than I ever could.

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