So, I went to a really weird high school at one point. I’ve written about it here before, but suffice to say that for many reasons the bonds formed there were quite strong. Now, it’s *mumblemumble* years later, and there was a reunion of sorts last month. Mind you, this school does no lend itself to the usual style of reunion, so anytime we get together it involves folks from many grad years at the school.

Anyway, the reason I’m writing is that I couldn’t go. A combination of work and life things created a perfect storm of not being able to make it happen to be there. And while I knew I would miss seeing everyone very much, I just wasn’t expecting to be so incredibly SAD about it even weeks later. I guess I really needed to renew those connections with the folks who know me best.

So this heartfelt I miss you all goes out to my friends from that school. Brothers and Sisters all.

Many of you know I have a tattoo on my wrist (one of many), but not many know why, or what it says. It is a Celtic tattoo that has the symbol for the stages of a woman’s life repeated four times in the shape of a cross (there are four sisters in my family). Surrounding the symbol for the three stages of a woman’s life (child, mother, crone) are the Gaelic words for Kindness, Patience and Tolerance.

I don’t know what it is lately, but tolerance is the hardest for me to work on. You see, the tattoo is meant as a reminder. A reminder of my sisterhood, my family, our bond, yes, but also of my weaknesses as a woman. I think so far ahead, my brain moves so fast, and I do so much that often I skip all of those good traits in favor of expediency in business. So my tattoo does double duty as my Wonder Woman bracelet – protecting me against becoming so focused on success that I’m not a human practicing business with and for humans.

Tolerance in my business dealings is ok, but in life outside of work? Lately I need, well… work. For some reason, though I can usually keep an even keel, so much annoys me. It’s as if I stand alone sometimes, impatiently taping my foot and waiting for the world to be more in tune with me. I think I need to work harder to be more in tune with it lately. I was told once long ago that I should focus on being a kind and accepting woman. Accepting and tolerance go hand in hand. I often struggle with the fine line between accepting too much (which can lead to being a pushover) and not accepting enough (being intolerant of the different paces we all live and work at).

What do you do when you get out of synch and things you struggle with rear their ugly heads?

What’s on your Bucket List? I’m talking about my Bucket List over here today.

It must be the economy. I’m looking for sales help over on Uptown Uncorked to grow the business and free me up to just do the work I need to do instead of dividing my time and attention.

Because it is a commission based position, I expected to get a fair amount of not-as-qualified resumes, and a few not-at-all qualified resumes. People love jobs that have a guaranteed salary these days, and this is definitely an outsourced freelance thing.

What I absolutely did not expect: the sheer volume of resumes received, and the low number of them from people with any sales experience at all. I’ve received well over 1000 resumes, and have painstakingly read them all. Out of the huge stack, the number of people who had ever touched sales in any capacity, from the most basic retail position to a more advanced sales position, totals 14. FOURTEEN.

Is it a sign of the times? Are people so desperate for work they are sending their resume to anything and everything that might earn them money? Or is it the job description itself?

I know a few have balked at the non-compete agreement requirement, but frankly, I’m looking for someone to sell me and my services and those of my company, not to intern for two months and go open their own shop with the knowledge they glean from working with someone who has been doing this for a long time. I don’t expect the person to be a lifer, by any means, but I do expect them to realize that the non-compete is more a convenant to ensure they focus for at least a certain amount of time on what I contract with them for: growing my business with me, than something that says “you can never do this”.

I’m OK with taking the time to find the right fit, but to say I’m a bit surprised at the response pool would be an understatement. What are your thoughts?

The sales help post is on Uptown Uncorked here

Talking about being a quitter and helping raise money to fight cancer over on Uptown Uncorked this week. Monday is d-day. Will I raise even one day worth of being a quitter? I have until Monday to find out.

I’m a great business owner and event planner. I responsibly pump any extra income right back into each of my businesses (I have two) and each of my events (I have four I run, some monthly, some yearly) so that I can grow the business and so that I can keep offering the educational events I run at free or low cost for people to come and learn.

This is GREAT news for my business contractors and clients and folks who want to feed their brains. It’s kind of bad news for my tattoo. Remember my tattoo? I got it outlined last August. That’s right – it’s almost been a year. A YEAR!

I’m starting to feel like I won’t finish it. That would be bad since it is kind of large and in a prominent place (my lower leg – it’s a calf piece).

Someone suggested I take tattoo donations. Interesting idea. Another person suggested I stop pumping money into my work and go do something fun. Tempting, but I can’t in good conscience abandon those I contract with, clients, etc for something fun, now can I? :)

What would you do??

Bear with me. A theme upgrade to be compatible with WordPress 3.0 is causing me to lose custom header calls and formatting. I won’t have time to figure it out and then fix it for a day or so, either.

:)

Update: Can’t find the graphics after so many computer switches in the years since I made the last theme, so we’re having a theme change. Basic for now, to be customized this weekend. Stay tuned. Bear with me :) I’m kind of a busy bee these days.

Things that are popular with folks I’m friends with and the internet that I do not get. At all.

Zombies. I hate zombies. I don’t understand why anyone wants to dress up like one, much less watch one in any movie. For any reason. Glad my friends have fun doing this, because I like my friends, but… very meh on the whole zombie trend thing.

Mindless slasher flicks of any kind. Not a fan. Give me a good thriller that shows no/little gore, something that is a psychological roller coaster ride, but keep your pumping blood, gushing cuts, disintegrating zombies, maggot encrusted dead pets, etc to yourself. Heck, I don’t even like seeing the actors in the fake blood on a set prepping for a scene for one of our film clients for one of my companies. I have no idea why these are even popular right now – there is plenty of real life scary stuff out there to worry about.

Vuvuzelas. Seriously. Enough already.

Crocs. I mean, do I really have to explain this one?

What trends can you just not get behind, no matter what?

I’d like to take a moment to thank Tara Sullivan (the person behind the rocking header) and Mesh Agency (especially Bill, Younus and Sam – the team behind the site design and its launch), for bring LesliePoston.com to life. I can’t begin to tell them how much I appreciate their help. Thanks guys!

In the last few years, I’ve become known for a wide variety of things, from planning learning events like Social Media Breakfasts in NH, to speaking, consulting, educating, business development, representing films, musicians, conference planning, and more. LesliePoston.com is my new hub to keep all of the many things I do together in one place, and to direct you out to the right company or event for what you need.

I couldn’t be happier with the site, and I’m happy to be able to send people one place and let them find what they need. Please let me know if there is a feature missing from the hub for you.

12 Things That Will Change Everything (note: has sound on autostart)

… but I AM shrinking. It even inspired a tweet today:


Several weeks w/out microwave + no bread/pasta/rice + fresh veg + more leavng car at home = smaller me by abt 10 lbs so far :) #simplethingsTue Jun 22 15:16:27 via Seesmic

‘Why is not having a microwave helping?’ is the question I got the most in response to my happy tweet. Basically, when I have a microwave, it encourages me to be lazy with food and to cheat. I’m busy, so it makes it “ok” to eat processed, carbo loaded and sodium heavy foods. By not having one, I’m turning to fast but healthy alternatives like easy to whip up spinach and herb salads for lunch topped with leftover protein from the night before. By eliminating most carbs in this modified Paleo diet concept I’m trying (No, not wine. Sorry, my dedication only goes so far, people. *wink*) and adding more fresh veggies and lean meats and fish and grilling nightly instead of cooking inside with a ton of sauces, I’m starting to see a real difference. I’m full. I eat less. I walk more to run simple errands. So far? This has been relatively painless to make as a change.

Keep your fingers crossed, folks. I miss my skinny ass. It hasn’t been gone THAT long, but this short frame was made to be 120 lbs, not *mumblemumble* lbs.

When will we take a stand on this? The latest article tells of a 92 year old driver who crashed into newlyweds and caused injury, amputation and fatality.

Here are some past thoughts on this issue:

Here and here and here and here

When you’re in business, it is inevitable that what you do involves other people. The way I run my businesses, I do a lot of collaborational arrangements on a per project basis with subcontractors like web designers, graphic designers, programmers, video editors, etc. This means I spend a lot of time in the world of estimates, bids, trades and RFPs (requests for proposals). This also means my two or three business pet peeves get triggered fairly often.

Peeve 1) Learn to Estimate

I can not tell you how annoying it is to get a proposal from someone where it is painfully obvious they have underestimated their time, resources, and overall budget. If the error is egregious, I may send a note suggesting politely that they take a second look at the estimate and resubmit, just to be nice, especially if I know the person is just starting out in freelancing and may be learning. If the problem continues, or comes from a company who should have the experience to know better? Chances are I’m going to take a teach by experience approach, taking the bid and saving my client money while letting the freelancer or company experience the time sink and cost overflow that comes from working a project that was not bid correctly. This usually nets a correct bid on future projects but means the freelancer lost money and time for their carelessness. A painful way to learn. Know what you are worth. Then bid what you are worth. I’d rather pay you more and get good quality than work with an unhappy, underpaid contractor.

Peeve 2) Unsolicited Change Orders and Cost Changes

Related to Peeve 1, if you under bid and the bid was accepted, you don’t get to try and re invoice halfway through at the price you should have bid the job in the first place. If the client wants to increase the scope, we will initiate that discussion and negotiate an increase and change order with the winning bidder; otherwise, the freelancer or company should stick with what was bid and learn from the mistake for future bids.

Peeve 3) Trade Weaseling

I don’t know what else to call this one. On rare occasion I’ll negotiate an in-kind trade with someone. I don’t do this often, because in kind trades don’t pay the bills, but they have other benefits that occasionally make them worthwhile. If I negotiate a trade for my services anticipating a certain project on the freelancer or company’s end and the project falls through for them, I will honor the trade on another of their clients, present or future. However, selling someone else isn’t my responsibility in this case. Don’t come back to me wanting money for whatever the trade was for or for me to devote hours selling what services others are offering because said freelancer or company couldn’t close a deal. They have my agreement to give them thousands of dollars of work in writing, good until the debt is settled, and the freelancer or company are still obligated to hold up their end of the trade. Ditto trades where folks realize they over committed – honor the trade and learn from the time discrepancy.

I imagine my Peeve # 3 will get the most comments, but I’m interested to know: what are YOUR business peeves?

This week marked the passing of our Antique Rottie Dog™. He made it to 15 and his sister made it to 13 before she passed a while back. The cats passed away at 17. I’d say everyone had a pretty good run, and I know they were all well loved and treated like fur kids/part of the family.

The question I get asked most, being such a sucker for animals: will I get another one? Of course, but not soon. It’s time to take a bit of a break before committing to be another loving animal’s next forever person. It’s going to take time to stop saving a bite of my steak for my boy, or wondering if it’s so quiet in the house because he’s into something or napping. And it definitely much more quiet in here with all of the pets now gone.

Thanks to all of my furkids for being my loyal friends and companions for so long, and for happily traveling with me to every apartment and house in every state and city I’ve lived in over the last 17 years. Furry unconditional love is a blessing.

Harley, Sugar, Lucy, Ethel and Autumn

The comment I have gotten the most since the move. Previous to the move it was “Wow, you packed fast!”

I have been unpacking fast. Not fast enough for my taste, but hey, I have to work while doing it. Why? Well, let’s just say that while I love my family, I grew up in a hoarding house with the folks, and my adopted grandma was a hoarder of food and things as well. Few things drive me crazier than ‘miscellaneous stuff’. I don’t even like having shelves, because I don’t want people to feel like knick knacks are appropriate gifts. I assure you, I’m only going to regift anything that sits on a shelf that isn’t a book (and I even donate as many of those as possible to senior centers, prisons, and libraries).

The best part of the move for me, hands down, was getting rid of over half the crap accumulated over being in one house so long. This was a painful process for The Dude. He has a few hoarding tendencies of his own, and definitely gets emotional and territorial about his ‘stuff’. I am here to tell you folks, the stuff is not the memory. Take a picture of whatever it is if possible and put it in a photo album with the story written next to it then toss the item – you’ll feel so much more free. Not only that, but the generations to come will know the story behind the item and can share your happy memory, long after you are gone. If it’s just a thing on your shelf or in your attic, only you will ever know the story – how selfish.

I keep a few things: photos in albums, things other people wrote, some first edition books, some record albums. Most of the time, though, I toss, sell or donate anything I haven’t used in six months that isn’t seasonal or legal documents. I don’t need ‘miscellaneous stuff’ to remember the story of my life. I remember it in telling others about it, and it’s a nice light feeling to connect that way and not drag a bunch of baggage around. I highly recommend cleaning out your actual and mental attic this summer.

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